Being a woman is a powerful thing.
We bring life to this world. We shape this world. We create balance to this world.
Being a woman today can also be a challenging thing. We need to carry our confidence high, find comfortability in our own skin, be a bad ass but still have the courage to be soft, embrace our femininity, feel beautiful and not giving a damn about what other people think.
It is easy to feel insecure in the world we live in. It is easy to feel that we aren’t enough. But dear, you are.
How do we become strong independent women that thrive on self-confidence, that are happy and content on our own and that can express who we are with courage? Building confidence is a skill. It’s something we need to practice over and over again. In this post I’d like to share three things that can help you shift your mindset to find that strength.
1. Write down things you’re proud of
The human mind is interesting. We can experience plenty of good things in a day and then one bad thing happens.. what will we think of at night when we go to bed? Yup. Negative thinking tends to overrule positive thinking. We need to actively remind ourselves of the good things in order to stay positive in our minds. We literally need to train ourselves to become positive thinkers. And this is also how we can build confidence and strength.
Do you ever stop to think of the things that you did well? Or are you always focusing on what you can improve? There’s nothing wrong with self-growth or wanting to strive for higher goals in life. But if we tend to only bring awareness to what we need to do better instead of acknowledging what we’ve already accomplished, we will drag ourselves into a negative spiral of self-doubt and self-judgment.
What did you do today that you’re proud of? Really. Take a second to think about it. As a matter a fact, write it down. When writing things down, we connect to the content on a deeper level. Make it into a habit to finish your days with writing down a couple of things that you feel proud of. Then take a couple of minutes to close your eyes and really bring those words into heart. Smile. Let your heart feel warm. Allow yourself to feel good about yourself.
2. Do You
This sounds cliché I know. But too often we try to be someone we’re not. Perhaps you’re studying a program simply because it seems good. Or, you’re already working at a “good job” where everyone else seems to think that you’re a success. But in reality, you don’t really feel fulfilled nor happy. Let’s take a risk and embrace our true selves shall we?
I started of studying at University in Stockholm when I was 20 years old. I studied Economics and International Relationships. Okay, International Relationships I actually enjoyed studying. Economics? Not my cup of tea.
I’m not saying it’s bad to study, the contrary. Studying is great! But choose something that you want to do. If you’re studying, study something that you’re passionate about! How do we find that? Well… Sometimes we can learn a lot about ourselves from doing the opposite of what we like. I learnt plenty being at University. I learnt that I really wanted to work with helping people. I also realised that I didn’t want to work in an office environment, but that I wanted to interact with people one-o-one.
About 1,5 years after I took my yoga certificate I realised that teaching yoga is something I wanted to do full time. At that time, yoga wasn’t as popular and established as it is today. Hell, today I feel like every other 20 year old wants to become a yoga teacher. But at that time people still thought of yoga teachers as being kind of hippie and well.. definitely not financially stable. So when I told my parents I wanted to teach yoga they were… not mad. But saying that they were enthusiastic would be an overstatement.
What I’m trying to say here is that doing you is intimidating. And you might not always get the support and acknowledgement from others that you’d like. But, it’s also incredibly deliberating to do exactly what you want to do. And from doing what you want, you’ll se that it’s actually not as bad as you might think and that you don’t need the approval from others to do so.
3. Use positive affirmations
As I already mentioned, negative thoughts tends to have a stronger effect than positive thoughts in our minds. We need to train ourselves to become positive thinkers and to feel confident and strong within ourselves. One way to do this is by implementing positive affirmations in your everyday life.
Positive affirmations is something I like to bring into my yoga practice or to start my meditation with. It helps me to shift my mental state into a positive one. If you’d like to focus on building confidence there are a couple of good ones on this site that you can practice: Click here
Affirmations is something you can repeat for yourself as I like to do, or you can write them down. You can also write them on notes and put them up around your home to serve as a daily reminder.
If you notice that your mind is moving into a place of criticism and judgment, use the affirmations in order to switch around your mindset. Keep practicing. And step by step, notice how the negativity can slowly drift away.
Remember. Being a woman is a powerful thing.
Be proud of what you accomplish every day.
Embrace who you truly are and express that to the fullest in what you do and in how you carry yourself.
Repeat empowering and positive affirmations.
You can do this. You really can.
Just. Be. You.